In First Comes Love, her dramatic, unsentimental memoir, Marion Winik gives an eloquent account of her very unconventional marriage. Her husband, Tony Heubach, was gay, but Marion and Tony were sure that their love and devotion would make their marriage work. With unflinching honesty Winik traces the trajectory of that marriage, from the happy times with their two small sons, to the stresses and fears after Tony was diagnosed with AIDS, to Tony's increasing dependence on drugs, and the rage and violence that those drugs unleashed. Finally, one heartbreaking day, Marion realizes she must at last let go and help her husband die. First Comes Love is Winik's way of coming to terms with her life: an impassioned, often harrowing document of love, loss, and survival.