Relationships are supposed to be the source of women's greatest joy and satisfaction, but more frequently, they are the location of disappointment, pain, and just plain hard times. 

Even the best relationships get stuck in too much distance (we stop talking together about things that matter) or too much intensity (we overfocus on the other things that matter) or too much intensity (we overfocus on the other person in an angry or worried way). And the more we try to change things-- or fix the other person-- the more they stay the same. 

This book takes a careful look at relationships where intimacy is most challenged, be it with a husband, family member, lover, or best friend. It shows us specific changes to make to achieve a more solid sense of self and a more intimate connection with others. Whatever your definition of intimacy, The Dance of Intimacy will challenge and enlarge it. 

Dr. Lerner explores the courageous acts of change we can make with key people in our lives; these will profoundly affect our sense of self and our ability to navigate closeness with others.